Five indicators of Agape Feedback

In my last post  I discussed how the Greek word Agape described the deepest and most meaningful type of love.  While “love in the workplace” sometimes gets a negative connotation, I think that Agape can accurately describe the best and most meaningful type of feedback you might give another person.  Agape also signifies sacrifice and I believe that the truest and most meaningful feedback has a sacrificial component built in.

Let’s talk about the five indicators that Agape Feedback is at work:

1.  The person getting feedback is not smiling at the conclusion of the discussion.  This may not always be the case, but the best feedback may bring pause to reflect or even bring concern upon the face of the individual getting this feedback.  The feedback may not promote happiness.

2.  The feedback giver is physically and emotionally tired.  Agape feedback is consuming to the one giving the input and it can cause both a physical and mental toll.  Agape is good, but it is tiring.

3.  Others in the workplace can tell that something has transpired.  In some instances it is not noticeable that feedback has been given in a situation, but in Agape feedback it is pretty obvious that direct and meaningful feedback has transpired and there are fairly immediate changes that have occurred as a result of the discussion.

4.  Persons receiving Agape feedback remember the discussion and eventually recognize it as a seminal event.  Many of us have discussions or feedback from others that is     “in one ear and out the other”, but Agape feedback is different and it is much longer lasting, maybe lifelong.

5.  Employees who are advancing in their career invite Agape feedback.  I have seen the phrase that “feedback is the breakfast of champions”, but for some this breakfast is cold and not so appetizing.  The best employees, the ones you really want to cultivate embrace Agape feedback and don’t mind giving and receiving this type of exchange with others.

So here you have it, 5 indicators of Agape feedback at work.

In my next post we will talk more about how to give Agape feedback to another.

I hope you are strong enough to join us.